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There is a bad habit and we all have it…to one degree or the other.
And what is it? The telling of tales…and in so doing like any good novelist embellishing the tale..
He said “You are cheap.” What he really said was, “*(Your name) is thrifty.” Or “She said your dress is the ugliest dress he’d ever seen.” What she really said was “It certainly is different?”
Obviously, this kind of retelling of a tale should never happen. It is mean spirited and should have been dropped, buried and forgotten and not continued with a new life. But sometimes what is shared is innocuous enough but still gets added to until it is no longer innocuous.
We’ve all played that game where perhaps a dozen people sat in a circle and the first person makes a statement to the second person who passes it on to the third…and so on…if you have played the game you know that by the time it has gone only half way around the circle the statement is beginning to bear little resemblance to what was originally said.
It isn’t that we human beings lie on purpose. It is that our memories are faulty and we have a tendency to enliven a quote too often in a negative direction.
So if such a barrage of telling gets back to you. Think positive. Decide that whatever was said was said in jest or out of weariness…and that same person may well have said some nice things about you as well..
In short, stop tenderizing your feelings while at the same time turning that chip on your shoulder into a log jam. I doubt there is a person alive who hasn’t had someone make a dumb statement about them that the person wishes they hadn’t said it.
And remember, when you hold on to anger it is like holding on to a hot coal that just keeps burning and burning and burning some more.
If you are determined to believe that someone really did meant to insult you and did a good job of it do not diminish your own being by growing angry at them. Pity them. Pray for them. Forgive them. But if they were a fool for saying something mean you are the greater fool if you let it just keep eating up your insides.
I have had people say bad things about me and I still greet them with a pleasant “Hello.” Perhaps they are still saying bad things about me. Perhaps they aren’t. But that is their problem. I don’t need to make it mine.
If you would like to share
this blog with a friend copy
paste and send this blog by email
or keep this URL
http://oneadayyourspiritualvitamins.blogspot.com
IN YOUR FAVORITES
and suggest they do the same
They are changed daily.
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There is a bad habit and we all have it…to one degree or the other.
And what is it? The telling of tales…and in so doing like any good novelist embellishing the tale..
He said “You are cheap.” What he really said was, “*(Your name) is thrifty.” Or “She said your dress is the ugliest dress he’d ever seen.” What she really said was “It certainly is different?”
Obviously, this kind of retelling of a tale should never happen. It is mean spirited and should have been dropped, buried and forgotten and not continued with a new life. But sometimes what is shared is innocuous enough but still gets added to until it is no longer innocuous.
We’ve all played that game where perhaps a dozen people sat in a circle and the first person makes a statement to the second person who passes it on to the third…and so on…if you have played the game you know that by the time it has gone only half way around the circle the statement is beginning to bear little resemblance to what was originally said.
It isn’t that we human beings lie on purpose. It is that our memories are faulty and we have a tendency to enliven a quote too often in a negative direction.
So if such a barrage of telling gets back to you. Think positive. Decide that whatever was said was said in jest or out of weariness…and that same person may well have said some nice things about you as well..
In short, stop tenderizing your feelings while at the same time turning that chip on your shoulder into a log jam. I doubt there is a person alive who hasn’t had someone make a dumb statement about them that the person wishes they hadn’t said it.
And remember, when you hold on to anger it is like holding on to a hot coal that just keeps burning and burning and burning some more.
If you are determined to believe that someone really did meant to insult you and did a good job of it do not diminish your own being by growing angry at them. Pity them. Pray for them. Forgive them. But if they were a fool for saying something mean you are the greater fool if you let it just keep eating up your insides.
I have had people say bad things about me and I still greet them with a pleasant “Hello.” Perhaps they are still saying bad things about me. Perhaps they aren’t. But that is their problem. I don’t need to make it mine.
“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it” wrote Marcus Aurelius.
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A quote below from tomorrow’s ONE A DAY blog entitled JUST SOME RANDOM ADVICE
“The nice thing about apathy is that you don’t have to go out of the way to prove you’re sincere about it.”
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TO VISIT THE WYRICK’S WRITING BLOG (A variety of serializations; a novel on Sunday and Tuesday and Thursday varying subjects) (3 times a week added to)
CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING URL http://wyrickswritings.blogspot.com/
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TO WATCH NEIL WYRICK IN HIS ONE MAN DRAMAS (Presented to millions all around the world) (Ben Franiklin, Martin Luther, Charles Wesley and Abraham Lincoln (this Lincoln film takes 11 seconds to download but is worth the wait)
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DO YOU HAVE A BLOG OR FACEBOOK? IF YOU ENJOY THESE WRITINGS COULD YOU CALL ATTENTION TO THIS BLOG? IF YOU DO, THANKS IN ADVANCE
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A quote below from tomorrow’s ONE A DAY blog entitled JUST SOME RANDOM ADVICE
“The nice thing about apathy is that you don’t have to go out of the way to prove you’re sincere about it.”
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TO VISIT THE WYRICK’S WRITING BLOG (A variety of serializations; a novel on Sunday and Tuesday and Thursday varying subjects) (3 times a week added to)
CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING URL http://wyrickswritings.blogspot.com/
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TO WATCH NEIL WYRICK IN HIS ONE MAN DRAMAS (Presented to millions all around the world) (Ben Franiklin, Martin Luther, Charles Wesley and Abraham Lincoln (this Lincoln film takes 11 seconds to download but is worth the wait)
CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING
http://www.speakerneil.com/
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V. Neil Wyrick’s ninth book is THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN and is now available on amazon.com at some rather good discount prices (Also, available for your Kindle)
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V. Neil Wyrick’s ninth book is THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN and is now available on amazon.com at some rather good discount prices (Also, available for your Kindle)
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