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There are creative ways to avoid letting things get out of hand.
One family I know of has a family whistle that hangs on a hook with the car keys.
When a family member is getting upset or has already achieved this dubious honor, he or she grabs the whistle and interrupts everyone with its screeching sound.
It is a signal…the signal is “I am getting mad and I want you to know why.”
Then as he or she speaks everyone is, according to the rules required to listen.
When he or she is finished, a rebuttal is allowed by anyone who wishes to speak.
The whistle blower must now listen without interrupting.
Everyone gets it off their chest. There is a time limit of two minutes max. They have learned that after that time one just keeps repeating the same problem couched in different terms.
They follow yet another rule. No one is to shout or underline their argument with curses.
Everyone, if possible tries to follow the philosophy, “If keep your mouth shut, you will never put your foot in it.” It helps them to monitor the content of what they are saying.
And most of the time it works.
If it doesn’t …now there is a new time limit, another two minutes allotted and the timer is started.
When it rings at the end of 30 minutes the arguments cease. Everything would just be counter productive.
Long before the 30 minutes are up most everyone has said everything there is to be said and several times over. But the 30 minutes is there and no one feels rushed in expressing their opinion.
Then everyone bows their heads and prays a prayer for patience and forgiveness.
Is there sometimes seething? Probably.
Does it work most of the time? I am told it does.
This family to reach this point had to have followed certain basics.
Each family member had to ask the question? Am I part of a solution or part of the problem?
Am I willing to be honest with myself in answering this question? Am I willing to do my part and even a little extra if another family member is holding back?
They didn’t reach where they are now without a lot of stumbling, two steps forwards and one step backwards…but oh what they have achieved.
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Ephesians 4:31-32 KJV)
”Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you”.
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Quotes from tomorrow’s blog entitled YOU AND YOUR INFLUENCE“Whom you love the most and are loved by…they are who you influence so greatly either for the good, the bad or the in-between.”
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A New Series on PAIN AND PROBLEMSbegan on MY other blog “Wyrick’s Writings”
and will continued until finished.
A new Series on PRAYER will begin when this series endsTo read these and a variety of topics
CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING URL below
http://oneadayyourspiritualvitamins.blogspot.com/
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************************************There are creative ways to avoid letting things get out of hand.
One family I know of has a family whistle that hangs on a hook with the car keys.
When a family member is getting upset or has already achieved this dubious honor, he or she grabs the whistle and interrupts everyone with its screeching sound.
It is a signal…the signal is “I am getting mad and I want you to know why.”
Then as he or she speaks everyone is, according to the rules required to listen.
When he or she is finished, a rebuttal is allowed by anyone who wishes to speak.
The whistle blower must now listen without interrupting.
Everyone gets it off their chest. There is a time limit of two minutes max. They have learned that after that time one just keeps repeating the same problem couched in different terms.
They follow yet another rule. No one is to shout or underline their argument with curses.
Everyone, if possible tries to follow the philosophy, “If keep your mouth shut, you will never put your foot in it.” It helps them to monitor the content of what they are saying.
And most of the time it works.
If it doesn’t …now there is a new time limit, another two minutes allotted and the timer is started.
When it rings at the end of 30 minutes the arguments cease. Everything would just be counter productive.
Long before the 30 minutes are up most everyone has said everything there is to be said and several times over. But the 30 minutes is there and no one feels rushed in expressing their opinion.
Then everyone bows their heads and prays a prayer for patience and forgiveness.
Is there sometimes seething? Probably.
Does it work most of the time? I am told it does.
This family to reach this point had to have followed certain basics.
Each family member had to ask the question? Am I part of a solution or part of the problem?
Am I willing to be honest with myself in answering this question? Am I willing to do my part and even a little extra if another family member is holding back?
They didn’t reach where they are now without a lot of stumbling, two steps forwards and one step backwards…but oh what they have achieved.
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Ephesians 4:31-32 KJV)
”Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you”.
******************************************
Quotes from tomorrow’s blog entitled YOU AND YOUR INFLUENCE“Whom you love the most and are loved by…they are who you influence so greatly either for the good, the bad or the in-between.”
*******************************************
A New Series on PAIN AND PROBLEMSbegan on MY other blog “Wyrick’s Writings”
and will continued until finished.
A new Series on PRAYER will begin when this series endsTo read these and a variety of topics
CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING URL below
http://oneadayyourspiritualvitamins.blogspot.com/
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