Sunday, October 18, 2015

HOW TO HANDLE CRITICISM

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Am I an authority on criticism?  Well, as a preacher I have certainly received (and certainly sometimes rightly so) criticism.

       Which someone commented on...the faults found about we ministers...and how we have so much experience in dealing with it.

       If he preaches sound doctrinal sermons, he ought to be more interested in everyday problems of people; if he focuses on practical life situations, it is because he doesn’t know much theology.

• If he emphasizes the importance of tithing, he has his mind on money; if he doesn’t stress regular giving, he is a poor steward of church finances.

• If he is especially strong on soul-winning, he should be more concerned about community and national affairs; if he is active in social and political betterment, he ought to concentrate on evangelism.

• If he tries to encourage a friendly atmosphere in the church, he is not conducting a dignified service; if he places priority on reverence and order during worship, he is going to give the church a reputation for being stuffy and unfriendly.

• If he makes a point of conveying basic spiritual truths that he may be all things to all people, he tends to be vague and too general; if he addresses specific sins within the congregation, he has quit preaching and gone to meddling.

Then Moses cried out to the Lord, "What am I to do with these people? They are almost ready to stone me." (Exodus 17:4)

       Just a reminder that criticism is nothing new.  It's been around as long as man has been around

       And...may I reintroduce you to Job? Here was a man that the Lord called " Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.” Yet, when various calamities descended on him and Job's friends came to be with him, they seemed to have nothing better to do but criticize him.

       And then there was Abraham Lincoln who one day gave another of his speeches.  There had been a long train ride and he was not even the main speaker of the day. 

       Afterwards, a newspaper in Chicago tore into his words with a scathing editorial.  Among other insults about the speech was the following, "The cheeks of every American should be red with shame at that silly, washed-out, utterance of the man who has to be introduced to foreigners as the President of the United States". That "terrible washed-out" speech would come to be known as The Gettysburg Address.

       Criticism sometimes cannot stand the light of day.

.      Bishop Stephen Neill, a great man of God, made the following observation in relationship to Christians. He put it bluntly in these words: "Criticism is the manure in which the Lord's servants grow best."

       Oh...and if you are constantly being criticized you must be doing something.  People who do little are usually criticized little.  Of course, the more you do the opportunities you have to make mistakes.

       Life gets complicated doesn't it.

       Criticism.

       Yesterday I dealt with the loving art giving criticism tempered by compassion, concern and common sense.

       Today I want to deal with being on the receiving end.

       It's a problem...this thing called criticism because all of us would like to receive EVERYONE'S approval.  It isn't going to happen but nevertheless it is at the top of our "wish list."

        Dwight L. Moody, the Billy Graham of a century or more ago, once mounted the pulpit to preach to a vast audience. He looked down and saw that someone had placed a note on his pulpit that contained one word, “Fool!” He picked it up, examined it, and replied, “I have received a lot of messages where the writer failed to sign his name, but I believe this is the first time I have seen the writer sign his name and forget the message!”

       What can be done to make it easier to handle someone in writing or word taking you apart?  Well, yes, a sense of humor helps.

       But also....ask the question when you are being criticized, "Is it valid?"  It's hard to do...and give ourselves an honest answer...defense mechanism automatically began to pop up...but it is a question that needs to be asked...first and foremost...and before excuses start to kick in. 

       Criticism?  You don't really want to live in a cocoon.  Be thankful for the benefits of criticisms.  They shine a spot light where we prefer to hide our faults in darkness.

       And criticisms usually has some truth in it and quite often some truths we have been willing to accept.  So...since perfection is humanly possible...the best we can do is be a student of our imperfections...and be thankful for a critic (teacher) ...even if it is a class we did not chose to attend.

       Yes, we learn from criticism...that friend in disguise...about which J.C. Penny wrote,

 "Those who enter (my department store)to buy, support me.

Those who come to flatter, please me.

Those who complain, teach me how I may please others so that more will come.

Only those hurt me who are displeased but do not complain.

       They refuse me permission to correct my errors and thus improve my service.

       Would you drain the lifeblood out of criticism?  Use it when it is directed at you to strengthen your power of forgiveness.  It's a challenge. 

       What am I talking about?    

       Someone has said bad things about you and I'm as of now suggesting a good response.  Well, I'm actually suggesting plugging into Christian love and forgiveness.

       Positives defeat negatives so...so...

       Massage your ability to sweat the small stuff.  A criticism may be a big criticism of something that really doesn't deserve any criticism at all.  Laugh it off.  Small people have nothing better to do...then criticize...believe it and pray for them rather than argue

       Don't be a time dweller.  Dwelling and dwelling and dwelling on some snide little remark that isn't worth the effort.  Or if it is a big criticism you deserve...learn from it...sharpen your solution skills...and then get on with life.

       In this electronic age when it so easy to insult people by email...if this has happened to you...do not respond in like kind...smother the individual with kindness...you may never hear from them again...or then again you may...in the form of an apology which will be better for both of you. 

       At least you won't have descended to their level.

       And in closing, when you feel put upon...you who have so little really to be criticized...just remember..

       His name was Jesus Christ and He was perfect.  Yet while he lived and walked among us criticism followed him wherever he went.

       Nor did his detractors run out of insults.  He was called a glutton, a drunkard, a carouser, an illegitimate child, a fraud, a revolutionary, a Sabbath breaker, a lunatic, an imposter, a liar, a charlatan, a blasphemer, a seditionist, a scofflaw, an extremist, a devil, a misguided martyr, a phantom, a missing corpse, a soon-to-be forgotten misfit. and these were just some of the words of just some of His critics.

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QUOTE ON CRITICISM

“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.”
Benjamin Franklin

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     A new quote below from Rev. Wyrick's 9th book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN (read the rave reviews below the quote)

It was late summer in 1864 when Sherman’s army captured Atlanta.  Ten weeks later, from this jumping off point, 60,000 men began a march through the heart of Georgia to the ocean.   Destruction of everything in between was the goal.         Homes and almost every other standing building were sacked with appalling efficiency until what had once been beautiful was utterly destroyed and forlorn.  Delivered by some men who did so with regret and by others who had lost their last vestige of kindness.

It was Sherman following his own instructions, “…modern wars are not won simply by defeating armies, but by destroying the ability to wage war – wreck railroads, burn fields, eradicate all economic resources – war is not glory – war is hell – and every man, woman and child must learn the lesson quickly.”

       "Positive, powerful utterances...skillfully enhancing our understanding and appreciation of Lincoln while revealing the Divine source of his strength."

       Lt. Colonel C.A. Olsen (Ret.) Asbury College (Professor Ret.)

       "The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln is an extremely well written book that investigates what might be termed the spiritual side of President Lincoln. It's both scholarly and very readable. I came away impressed at Mr. Wyrick's portrayal of the President and with an altered and enlarged vision of the man:'

       William Hoffman, Award winning fiction writer; author of Blood and Guile, and Wild Thorn

       "Wyrick has authored a wonderful examination of the spirituality of one of American history's most devoutly religious leaders...a pleasant and readable book that has a rich depth of information."

              Maynard Pittendreigh Presbyterian minister

        "When it comes to invoking religion in support of any of their decisions, politicians need to sit at the feet of Abraham Lincoln. Reinhold Niebuhr once called him 'America's greatest theologian.' Why so great? Because he invariably distinguished between human works and the works of the Almighty. As Wyrick says, 'He wore the mantle of humility easily: because he was more impressed with what God was doing in the world than with what he, president of the United States in the midst of an awful crisis, was doing. That is why in his last major speech he distinguished between both human causes in the Civil War and the Almighty's 'own purposes.' Lincoln would have agreed that it is better to leave God-talk out of politics than to decorate human proposals with divinity. This is a book for our American time. Through his careful study of Lincoln's career, Wyrick compels us to remember that piety belongs in politics only when piety transcends politics."

       Dr. Donald W. Shriver

       Emeritus professor at Union Theological Seminary in New York. Author of An Ethic for Enemies: Forgiveness in Politics

        "V. Neil Wyrick's fine work allows the reader to appreciate Abraham Lincoln's Christian commitment and his prophetic role in American history. Should have a wide readership."

       James H. Smylie Professor of Church History (Ret.) Union Theological Seminary, Richmond, Virginia

       "Neil Wyrick's The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln should be read by anyone attempting to understand the man who was probably the most complex person to ever hold the office of president of the United States. Dr. Wyrick is intent on demonstrating that the spirituality so often expressed in Lincoln's writings and speeches was not merely lip service to a Deity, but rather expressions of a profound faith in a real God. It was this faith that provided the wisdom, compassion, insight and sometimes steel that Lincoln would need in full measure as he led the United States through the Civil War. Dr. Wyrick's clear and unpretentious style of presentation is very much in keeping with the character ofhis subject, and in so doing, Wyrick makes his point very well that Lincoln, his beliefs, and the faith that formed them, are as relevant to a troubled America in 2004 as they were in 1863."

       Daniel Allen Butler, author of "Unsinkable"; The Full Story of the RMS Titanic, The Lusitania and The Age o f Cunard

QUOTE BELOW IS FROM WYRICK'S WRITINGS

          There is no other organization in the world like the church.  It is a breed unto itself.  It is a congregation of sinners, not a country club for saints.  To become a member you have to profess your unworthiness. 

CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING TO TAKE YOU THERE


      (These are selected sermons from over 50 years of ministry and as a worldwide evangelist Rev. Wyrick preached them all the United States and all over the world)
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            CLICK ON  www.go60.us   IT WILL TAKE YOU A NEW WEBSITE FOR SENIORS....click on "Voice" on the home page and then on the list of authors click on Neil Wyrick

Recent articles Rev. Wyrick has written for this web site are:  REFLECTIONS


·         Here Comes Summer (July 2012)

·         Spring (May 2012)

·         Let it Snow, Let it Snow, Let it Snow (April 2012)

·         Wayward and Windy (April 2012)

Just remember that “the pain of discipline will cost you pennies, whereas the pain of regret will cost you millions.”

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How can we keep our faith from being a weak and fruitless thing?  How can we not be foolish little men and women groveling in the dark shadows of overeager egos. 

          Well, first we must do more than just pray.  We must believe in our own prayers.

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Anxiety out of proportion makes us become like a centipede trying to put his best foot forward.

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        It's an old joke, I went to the doctor and I said, “Doc, when I do this, it hurts.” And the doctor said, “Then don't do that.”

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        How many things have you been anxious about that were things which you knew before you got into them were probably going to create some problems for you?  And if you asked your doctor, or your minister, or common sense and your God, all of them would have said, “Don’t do that.”

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        To buy into the community of accountability we have to realize that like bikers we are divided into two categories.  Those who have fallen and those who will fall for anything. None of us are perfect.

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          Think on it this way, some philosopher of old wrote it and it endures because there is so much truth in it… every right implies a responsibility; every opportunity, an obligation; every possession, a duty

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      Some of the sermon titles posted recently

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Before you decide to purchase or not purchase his book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN.... view his Award Winning One Man Dramatization of Lincoln (since he wrote the script for this drama it will give you an insight into what you will find in the book itself)

Available on Amazon.com in printed form and on Amazon Kindle Books. and at many other sites

TO VIEW THE LINCOLN One Man DRAMA and 3 other dramas; Ben Franklin, Martin Luther & Charles Wesley

click on the following URL

http://www.speakerneil.com/

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BELOW ARE MORE QUOTES FROM NEIL'S RECENTLY POSTED SERMONS

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A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED
       Two stores faced each other across a very busy street.  Their owners were in constant competition with each other.  One day, the owner of one store put out a sign that read – If you want it, we have it!

Almost immediately the other owner put out a sign –If we don’t have it, you don’t need it!

A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED

WHO ARE YOU?

NO…WHOSE ARE YOU?

       Who are you?  Whose are you?

You influence and are influenced according to the answer you give.     

Are you are the flavor of the month because you are determined to be like everyone else no matter what?  If so, consider being more independent in our thinking and actions...because God wants you to grow up.

It may be easier being someone's shadow but wouldn't you really rather be a sun. 


       QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS  POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED "Who Are You?  Whose Are You?"

       This is an old quote, and a romantic one as well but, nevertheless, can anyone say of you, “I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

            QUOTE FROM THOUGHT PIECE POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED

" WHEN A NATION STRAYS TOO FAR FROM BEING MORAL IT IS WELL ON IT'S WAY TO BECOMING A MESS

        James 4:17

To him therefore who knows to do good, and doesn’t do it, to him it is sin.

        Someone once said: “A belief is what you hold, a conviction is what holds you!”

        So what holds you, constructs you, leads you with a push when needed?

       Quotes POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITING ENTITLED WHO ARE YOU?

NO…WHOSE ARE YOU?

        In a Peanuts cartoon strip Peppermint Patty is shown talking to Charlie Brown.

“Guess what, Chuck? It’s the first day of school and I got sent to the principal’s office.

And it’s your fault!”

Charlie Brown responds, “My fault? How could it be my fault? Why do you say everything is my fault?”

To which she declares, “You’re my friend, aren’t you, Chuck? You should have been a better influence on me.”

In the comics, it’s funny… but in real life it’s much more complicated.

       Would you like to read the entire thought piece?  Then... TO TAKE YOU TO THE WYRICK'S WRITING'S SITE

                    click on the following


          Yes, God loves you the way you are but he loves you too much to let you stay that way.

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      Click on the URL below to WATCH NEIL IN HIS WORLD FAMOUS ONE MAN DRAMATIZATIONS OF ABRAHAM LINCOLN, BEN FRANKLIN, CHARLES WESLEY AND MARTIN LUTHER


       To Order and Read Neil's 9th book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN

       GO TO amazon.com

       QUOTES ABOUT THIS WONDERFUL INSPIRING INFORMATIVE book

       STILL RECEIVING RAVE REVIEWS 8 YEARS AFTER IT'S PUBLICATION.

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