Saturday, May 23, 2015

EMPATHY

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Mamie Adams always went to a branch post office in her town because the postal employees there were friendly. She went there to buy stamps just before Christmas one year and the lines were particularly long. Someone pointed out that there was no need to wait in line because there was a stamp machine in the lobby. "I know," said Mamie, 'but the machine won't ask me about my arthritis."

        How many times do you ask someone how they feel in such a way they feel like they can really tell you?

        There is empathy...there is sympathy...and there is...well....

        The little girl was crying as if heart was broken.  The mother asked her what was wrong.  Seated by the little girls side was her friend Suzie.

        "Suzie's lost her favorite doll."

        "Did you lose your doll too?"

        "No," answered the little girl, "I'm just helping Suzie cry.

        It is such a gift we can give to each other.  To make it obvious we really do care and to train and pray our way toward being the type of person who really does care.

                Empathy...it is seeing the world from the other persons point of view...and even more...wanting to.

        And then caring ...even when their view is no where near your own.

        Empathy might well help someone to rebuild a sandcastle that had been destroyed...but empathy would never be someone who destroyed it.

        Did you know that American kids are 10 times more likely to commit murder than the same- age kids across the border in Canada?

        Does this say that by example they are learning from we adults ongoing lessons in empathy?

        Have too many parents lost their moral bearings or are too afraid of disciplining their children in the process of teaching right and wrong?  Is empathy part of a backbone for concerned and compassionate living?  If we do not teach our children in all the ways we can and should what will their peers teach them?

        In a nationwide survey of parents, George Barna found the following (1) Parents were equally divided on whether to tell their children that the Bible teaches moral absolutes that must always be obeyed or that there are no moral absolutes and children just need to make good choices.

        It happened in Pennsylvania several years ago.
On a snowy day 9-year-old Cameron was playing Nintendo with Jessica (7). Cameron’s parents stopped the game because the kids had made a mess and the two had argued. Cameron went home angry. He took a rifle from his family gun cabinet, went back and shot Jessica, and hid the cartridge. As Jessica’s mother tried to save her daughter, Cameron went back to paying Nintendo. Later he told the other kids who were crying over Jessica’s death, “If you don’t think about it you won’t be sad.”

        Without empathy civilizations become jungles.

        It isn't that we have not heard better but then for some they have not heard better...or heard it very often...so it does not influence so very greatly... In Luke 6:31, Jesus said “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” That is hard to do if you can’t imagine what it must be like in another person’s shoes.
Paul wrote that we should rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep
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                The call to parenthood is obvious...and studies show that the more involvement a parent has with a child and during that involvement does speak of empathetic needs the more likely the child is to grow up to be a caring individual.

        Those same studies show that today's mothers spend an average of 11-13 minutes a day in quality interaction with their children...and 30 minutes on weekends...and fathers even less, 8 to 14 minutes.

        Has your child ever visited a relative in a hospital setting or nursing home?  Do you say "No" because you want to protect them?  Protect them from what...learning how to care...getting at least little of that feeling of being in someone else's shoes.

        Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
Leo Buscaglia

Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant with the weak and wrong. Sometime in your life, you will have been all of these.”
Siddhārtha Gautama

There is no small act of kindness.
Every compassionate act makes large the world.”

Mary Anne Radmacher

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SERMON TITLE...HOW TO LESSEN ANXIETY

Anxiety out of proportion makes us become like a centipede trying to put his best foot forward.

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SERMON TITLE...HOW TO LESSEN ANXIETY

     It's an old joke, I went to the doctor and I said, “Doc, when I do this, it hurts.” And the doctor said, “Then don't do that.”

      How many things have you been anxious about that were things which you knew before you got into them were probably going to create some problems for you?  And if you asked your doctor, or your minister, or common sense and your God, all of them would have said, “Don’t to that.” 

     Below is a quote from Neil's other blog Wyrick's Writings...

To buy into the community of accountability we have to realize that like bikers we are divided into two categories.  Those who have fallen and those who will fall for None of us are perfect.

       Think on it this way, some philosopher of old wrote it and it endures because there is so much truth in it… every right implies a responsibility; every opportunity, an obligation; every possession, a duty

      Below is a quote from Neil's other blog Wyrick's Writings...

One writer put it this way: “If we could see ourselves as God sees us, we would rise up and never be the same again.”

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A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED



       Two stores faced each other across a very busy street.  Their owners were in constant competition with each other.  One day, the owner of one store put out a sign that read – If you want it, we have it!

Almost immediately the other owner put out a sign –If we don’t have it, you don’t need it!



A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED

WHO ARE YOU?

NO…WHOSE ARE YOU?

       Who are you?  Whose are you?

You influence and are influenced according to the answer you give.     

Are you are the flavor of the month because you are determined to be like everyone else no matter what?  If so, consider being more independent in our thinking and actions...because God wants you to grow up.

It may be easier being someone's shadow but wouldn't you really rather be a sun. 



       QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS  POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED "Who Are You?  Whose Are You?"

       This is an old quote, and a romantic one as well but, nevertheless, can anyone say of you, “I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

            QUOTE FROM THOUGHT PIECE POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITINGS ENTITLED

" WHEN A NATION STRAYS TOO FAR FROM BEING MORAL IT IS WELL ON IT'S WAY TO BECOMING A MESS

        James 4:17

To him therefore who knows to do good, and doesn’t do it, to him it is sin.

        Someone once said: “A belief is what you hold, a conviction is what holds you!”

        So what holds you, constructs you, leads you with a push when needed?

       Quotes POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITING ENTITLED WHO ARE YOU?

NO…WHOSE ARE YOU?

        In a Peanuts cartoon strip Peppermint Patty is shown talking to Charlie Brown.

“Guess what, Chuck? It’s the first day of school and I got sent to the principal’s office.

And it’s your fault!”

Charlie Brown responds, “My fault? How could it be my fault? Why do you say everything is my fault?”

To which she declares, “You’re my friend, aren’t you, Chuck? You should have been a better influence on me.”

In the comics, it’s funny… but in real life it’s much more complicated.

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          Yes, God loves you the way you are but he loves you too much to let you stay that way.

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       "Positive, powerful utterances...skillfully enhancing our understanding and appreciation of Lincoln while revealing the Divine source of his strength."

       Lt. Colonel C.A. Olsen (Ret.) Asbury College (Professor Ret.)

       "The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln is an extremely well written book that investigates what might be termed the spiritual side of President Lincoln. It's both scholarly and very readable. I came away impressed at Mr. Wyrick's portrayal of the President and with an altered and enlarged vision of the man:'

       William Hoffman, Award winning fiction writer; author of Blood and Guile, and Wild Thorn

       "Wyrick has authored a wonderful examination of the spirituality of one of American history's most devoutly religious leaders...a pleasant and readable book that has a rich depth of information."

              Maynard Pittendreigh Presbyterian minister

        "When it comes to invoking religion in support of any of their decisions, politicians need to sit at the feet of Abraham Lincoln. Reinhold Niebuhr once called him 'America's greatest theologian.' Why so great? Because he invariably distinguished between human works and the works of the Almighty. As Wyrick says, 'He wore the mantle of humility easily: because he was more impressed with what God was doing in the world than with what he, president of the United States in the midst of an awful crisis, was doing. That is why in his last major speech he distinguished between both human causes in the Civil War and the Almighty's 'own purposes.' Lincoln would have agreed that it is better to leave God-talk out of politics than to decorate human proposals with divinity. This is a book for our American time. Through his careful study of Lincoln's career, Wyrick compels us to remember that piety belongs in politics only when piety transcends politics."

       Dr. Donald W. Shriver

       Emeritus professor at Union Theological Seminary in New York. Author of An Ethic for Enemies: Forgiveness in Politics

        "V. Neil Wyrick's fine work allows the reader to appreciate Abraham Lincoln's Christian commitment and his prophetic role in American history. Should have a wide readership."

       James H. Smylie Professor of Church History (Ret.) Union Theological Seminary, Richmond, Virginia

       "Neil Wyrick's The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln should be read by anyone attempting to understand the man who was probably the most complex person to ever hold the office of president of the United States. Dr. Wyrick is intent on demonstrating that the spirituality so often expressed in Lincoln's writings and speeches was not merely lip service to a Deity, but rather expressions of a profound faith in a real God. It was this faith that provided the wisdom, compassion, insight and sometimes steel that Lincoln would need in full measure as he led the United States through the Civil War. Dr. Wyrick's clear and unpretentious style of presentation is very much in keeping with the character ofhis subject, and in so doing, Wyrick makes his point very well that Lincoln, his beliefs, and the faith that formed them, are as relevant to a troubled America in 2004 as they were in 1863."

       Daniel Allen Butler, author of "Unsinkable"; The Full Story of the RMS Titanic, The Lusitania and The Age o f Cunard

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