WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE HAPPIER AND MORE RELAXED?/THE ANXIETY OF BEING HUMAN

I have posted the piece on Anxiety on both blogs this Sunday because it has so much help to give.

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As I watched him I could see the tension in his face and how he held his body and I thought of something I just read by a Dr. Julian Lake. 

The good doctor had set up two groups; in the first group were people who were unable to relax and in the second group were those who were relatively free from tension. 

They discovered that the tense people had one thing in common which was not prevalent among the relaxed group--- they were all extremely critical of others.

It’s really quite simple.

When you love your neighbor and make an effort to at least understand he or she, even if they are not acting neighborly, you feel better.

If you are always finding fault when your complain is a sword slicing away at your emotional stability and making it an open wound.

The old founding Father Benjamin Franklin put it well, “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.”

Most quarrels exist because it takes two to tango and if they last long enough there may well be legitimate complains.

Actually, a great deal of criticism is born of envy.  Someone has what we don’t have and we, if not careful, have a need to put them down as a way of lifting ourselves up. 

Ah, my friends…

There is so much good

In the worst of us,

And so much bad in the best of us,

That it hardly behooves any of us,

To talk about the rest of us.

            There is the classic story about the boss who received a note from one of his many employees with just one word written on it, “Fool.”  He then gathered his workers together and said, “I have from time to time down through the years gotten some notes with no signature,” and then shared the note he held in hand, “but this is the first time anyone ever signed their name and forgot to write the note.”

            The terrible thing about being a professional in the art of finding fault with other people is that while we are seldom seeing any good in people we are seldom seeing much good in life either.  It is little wonder that criticizers lead the list of ulcer victims.

            And one last comment on what people are always complaining about these days; our armed forces and our government.  Have you ever run a bank? Have you ever led an Army?  When you criticize the way things are being done in America perhaps you should educate yourself in these areas before criticizing.  I know from personal experience that when I have stopped and looked more closely at some of my complaints I realized I really didn’t know what I was talking about.