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the thoughts below read a quote from Rev. Wyrick's applauded 9th book THE
SPIRITUAL ARAHAM LINCOLN...AVAILABLE ON AMAZON.COM AND ON KINDLE
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Death creates enough problems without
letting denial create a greater one.
The father of two young boys four and
five died.
The mother, a woman of distinct
discipline and control sent them to an aunt so they would not be in the house
at the time of the funeral.
After three weeks, when they returned,
no mention was made of their father.
When they inquired about him, they were told he had gone away and to ask
no further questions.
Finding no satisfactory answers they
began to make up their own. Finally,
they reached the conclusion that their mother had killed their father and
secretly hidden the body.
They never confided the thought to
anyone and so throughout their childhood and adolescence, they harbored these
terrible visions of their mother as a murderess.
The older brother began to imagine
himself condemned as a murderer, and the young brother as the murdered.
In their early twenties, the two
brothers had developed such massive neurotic personalities, they were forced to
undergo prolonged psychiatric treatment.
Pure and simple, a child does not need a
detailed clinical description of death but he or she needs to be included
within the framework of a family fighting for stability.
He or she needs to be able to look back,
at this troublesome time and remember that while there was sorrow there were
also friends who cared and warmth that was demonstrated.
It isn't easy because the adult is also having
a difficult time adjusting but still...
...one of the first things to
communicate is that there is no right or
wrong way to respond to death. We are
all different human beings and no child should be made to feel his reaction is
somehow out of the ordinary.
Until about 5 or 6 a child's thinking is
quite literal which means that if the deceased is elderly it is a simple enough
to say that the person's body wasn't working right and the doctor couldn't fix
it.
Children this young quite often have a
difficult time dealing with the fact that the individual isn't coming
back. So just be patient and keep calmly
explaining.
And don't use euphemisms' such as
"they went to sleep." The
child may take this literally and become afraid to go to sleep. If you have a strong faith this may well be a
good time to use phrases such as "they have now gone to be with
Jesus" or "they're in heaven now."
Should a child be taken to a
funeral? Talk about what happens at a
funeral and let them decide. That the
deceased will be in a casket and there will be a lot of people crying and they
are allowed to cry. And that people will
be talking about the deceased and that will be sad and joyous all at the same
time as they share memories.
And do not force to them to look at the
deceased and certainly don't force them to kiss them.
Explain any mourning rituals that will
take place.
If you are too grief stricken to do such
explaining chose someone you trust; a family member or friend or your minister.
In the midst of all this grief the child
may feel as if their world is falling apart.
Assure them that you are there to take care of them and that everything
(except for the loss of the individual) will largely be the same.
There may well be financial challenges
but this is certainly not the time to bring it up.
Despite everything you do a child may
have a radical change of personality; become moody, began to have worse grades,
etc. If this happens, don't just ignore
it.
Now is the time to consult doctors,
professional counselors, support groups, mental health organizations,
As
your child grows older and moves into their teens the best thing you can do is
to encourage their giving words to their grief.
By middle school they can truly understand the finality of death.
All of these statements across are based
on average responses...and none of us at any age are necessarily average.
So
a caution...just be considerate and when in doubt listen with patience
more than you speak up with ignorance.
And encourage them (if they are readers
to read some books on grief) and
particular Bible verses.
And yes allow your minister to share his
or her considerable experience and expertise.
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Below is a quote from Rev. Wyrick's 9th book
THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN.
It is little wonder that once the war was
over, wretched memories fed anger loud and long. Neither side could be proud of some things
that happened during the war or at their many prison camps. The meanness in some men had multiplied. They felt their uniforms allowed it.
Andersonville, or Camp Sumter
as it was officially known, in southwest Georgia
By the end of the war, it had
held 50,000 prisoners on a piece of land no larger than twenty-six acres.
Some men had called pits in
the ground their home. During its short
fourteen-month existence, 13,000 soldiers who had survived in battle died in
captivity under the most terrible conditions.
When the war was over the
superintendent was hanged.
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WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING ABOUT THE BOOK
"Positive,
powerful utterances...skillfully enhancing our understanding and appreciation
of Lincoln
Lt.
Colonel C.A. Olsen (Ret.) Asbury
College
"The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln is
an extremely well written book that investigates what might be
termed the spiritual side of President Lincoln. It's both scholarly and very
readable. I came away impressed at Mr. Wyrick's portrayal of the President and
with an altered and enlarged vision of the man:'
William Hoffman, Award winning fiction writer; author of Blood and Guile, and
Wild Thorn
"Wyrick has authored a wonderful
examination of the spirituality of one of American history's most devoutly
religious leaders...a pleasant and readable book that has a rich depth of
information."
Maynard Pittendreigh Presbyterian
minister
"When it comes to invoking religion in
support of any of their decisions, politicians need to sit at the feet of
Abraham Lincoln. Reinhold Niebuhr once called him 'America Lincoln Lincoln
Dr.
Donald W. Shriver
Emeritus professor at Union Theological Seminary in New York
"V. Neil Wyrick's fine work allows the reader to appreciate Abraham
Lincoln's Christian commitment and his prophetic role in American history.
Should have a wide readership."
James
H. Smylie Professor
of Church History (Ret.) Union Theological Seminary, Richmond , Virginia
"Neil
Wyrick's The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln should be read by anyone attempting to understand the man who was probably
the most complex person to ever hold the office of president of the United States Lincoln Lincoln United States Lincoln America
Daniel Allen Butler, author
of "Unsinkable"; The Full Story of the RMS Titanic, The Lusitania
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Neil also writes for go60.us to check out his writings...
click on
"Voice" on the home page and then on the list of authors click
on Neil Wyrick
Recent articles Rev. Wyrick has written for this web site are:
REFLECTIONS
·
Here Comes Summer (July 2012)
·
Spring
(May 2012)
·
Let it Snow, Let it Snow, Let it Snow (April 2012)
·
Wayward and Windy (April 2012)
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Some of the sermon titles
posted recently on Wyrick's Writings
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BELOW ARE MORE QUOTES FROM NEIL'S RECENTLY POSTED SERMONS
on Wyrick's Writings
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A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY
OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ON SUNDAY APRIL 15. ENTITILED
Two stores faced each other across a very
busy street. Their owners were in constant competition
with each other. One day, the owner of
one store put out a sign that read – If
you want it, we have it!
Almost immediately the other owner put out a
sign –If we don’t have it, you don’t
need it!
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HIS WORLD FAMOUS ONE MAN DRAMATIZATIONS OF ABRAHAM LINCOLN, BEN FRANKLIN, CHARLES WESLEY AND MARTIN LUTHER
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