Sunday, January 20, 2013

THERE ARE WAYS TO DEAL WITH SORROW


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       Grief!  It is a journey of sorrow and one most of have taken and more than once.   It is a wound but not one without hope. It always leaves a scar, but it can be healed. 

       There are three ways to deal with sorrow; express it, repress it or suppress it.

       It is a wisdom to give it room to wear itself out or it will dig itself in.

       It is estimated that one out of every ten people in mental hospitals broke down because of their inability to handle the problem of grief.

       There is no completely getting over loss.  What was is always missed.  It is called memory.  Perhaps it was sweet, perhaps it was bitter, but we always carry a little of yesterday with us.

       No one reacts to grief the same way. In such moments of pain, our individuality still persists. Some weep, some sit-in shocked silence, still others chatter incessantly.

              Often there is anger at the doctor, or God, or even at the deceased.  The bereaved often need someone to blame until they get their thinking back back in line.

       It is primary to easing grief to be able to frame three words; "he/she is dead." These words can cut like a knife, but it is therapeutic surgery.

       It is learning to live with reality. It is giving God the opportunity to deal with all of your sorrow at once instead of in bits and snatches.

       A man and wife spent many weekend fishing together.  When she died, he gave up fishing.

       A father and his son played golf each Saturday morning.  When the boy was killed in an automobile accident, the father put their clubs out for the trash man.  A mother and daughter often played and sung around the piano after supper.  A rare disease took the daughter after six short months of suffering.  She sold the piano and never played again.

       It is a natural reaction but it is well to remember and pray toward the truth that what part of life that can continue must continue. 

       To cut holes out of one's existence as a kind of martyr memorial does no good for either the living or the dead.

       There is more guilt after death than at ay other time.  Often a husband or wife will feel guilty because with time, they are beginning to feel better, as if it were a denial of a great love, rather than God's healing of a great pain.

       And yes...there comes now the time for a great challenge...the praying of a thanksgiving prayer, "Dear Lord, I thank you that I had him/her at all for it has been  such a great and glorious blessing."

       But there is yet another grief that must be mentioned.  There are husbands who have hurt too much and wives who cut too deeply.  There are fathers who have been tyrants and mothers who have been mean and hurting nags. 

       And when they are gone there is only no sadness only relief.

       What now to do?  Practical as well as theological?  Verbalize the anger.  Get it out of your system and before the heart of God.  Find a friend who will listen and not be shocked.  Write down your bitterness so you can read it. Filter the facts through prayers for love and forgiveness. 

       But then...and it can take awhile...sometimes a long while...relentlessly pursue a spirit of forgiveness...it can be a catharsis...not giving up on your effort to chase after a forgiving spirit is in itself a victory.

       Let me say it again, "The pursuit is a victory."

       And yes...give nature its chance to heal.  "Get up early and greet the first rays of the sun.  Walk where there is the roar of an ocean to hear, or the ripple of a stream.  Go for a walk in the rain, let the wind whistle by your ear...hold a leaf in hand, plant a seed...go where nature lives and God's creation is at work.

       Let loose it vigor on your sorrow.

       QUOTES ON HEALING SORROW

        Forgiveness: Forgiveness is the economy of the heart. Forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits. -Hannah More

·           "The walls we build around us to keep out the sadness also keep out the joy."~Jim Rohn

·           "It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all."~Alfred Lord Tennyson

       When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal. ~Author Unknown

 
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Below is a quote from Rev. Wyrick's 9th book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN.

      It is little wonder that once the war was over, wretched memories fed anger loud and long.  Neither side could be proud of some things that happened during the war or at their many prison camps.  The meanness in some men had multiplied.  They felt their uniforms allowed it.

Andersonville, or Camp Sumter as it was officially known, in southwest Georgia is remembered as one of the worst. 

By the end of the war, it had held 50,000 prisoners on a piece of land no larger than twenty-six acres. 

Some men had called pits in the ground their home.  During its short fourteen-month existence, 13,000 soldiers who had survived in battle died in captivity under the most terrible conditions. 

When the war was over the superintendent was hanged.

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      WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING ABOUT THE BOOK

       "Positive, powerful utterances...skillfully enhancing our understanding and appreciation of Lincoln while revealing the Divine source of his strength."

       Lt. Colonel C.A. Olsen (Ret.) Asbury College (Professor Ret.)

       "The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln is an extremely well written book that investigates what might be termed the spiritual side of President Lincoln. It's both scholarly and very readable. I came away impressed at Mr. Wyrick's portrayal of the President and with an altered and enlarged vision of the man:'

       William Hoffman, Award winning fiction writer; author of Blood and Guile, and Wild Thorn

       "Wyrick has authored a wonderful examination of the spirituality of one of American history's most devoutly religious leaders...a pleasant and readable book that has a rich depth of information."

              Maynard Pittendreigh Presbyterian minister

        "When it comes to invoking religion in support of any of their decisions, politicians need to sit at the feet of Abraham Lincoln. Reinhold Niebuhr once called him 'America's greatest theologian.' Why so great? Because he invariably distinguished between human works and the works of the Almighty. As Wyrick says, 'He wore the mantle of humility easily: because he was more impressed with what God was doing in the world than with what he, president of the United States in the midst of an awful crisis, was doing. That is why in his last major speech he distinguished between both human causes in the Civil War and the Almighty's 'own purposes.' Lincoln would have agreed that it is better to leave God-talk out of politics than to decorate human proposals with divinity. This is a book for our American time. Through his careful study of Lincoln's career, Wyrick compels us to remember that piety belongs in politics only when piety transcends politics."

       Dr. Donald W. Shriver

       Emeritus professor at Union Theological Seminary in New York. Author of An Ethic for Enemies: Forgiveness in Politics

        "V. Neil Wyrick's fine work allows the reader to appreciate Abraham Lincoln's Christian commitment and his prophetic role in American history. Should have a wide readership."

       James H. Smylie Professor of Church History (Ret.) Union Theological Seminary, Richmond, Virginia

       "Neil Wyrick's The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln should be read by anyone attempting to understand the man who was probably the most complex person to ever hold the office of president of the United States. Dr. Wyrick is intent on demonstrating that the spirituality so often expressed in Lincoln's writings and speeches was not merely lip service to a Deity, but rather expressions of a profound faith in a real God. It was this faith that provided the wisdom, compassion, insight and sometimes steel that Lincoln would need in full measure as he led the United States through the Civil War. Dr. Wyrick's clear and unpretentious style of presentation is very much in keeping with the character ofhis subject, and in so doing, Wyrick makes his point very well that Lincoln, his beliefs, and the faith that formed them, are as relevant to a troubled America in 2004 as they were in 1863."

       Daniel Allen Butler, author of "Unsinkable"; The Full Story of the RMS Titanic, The Lusitania and The Age o f Cunard

       

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Recent articles Rev. Wyrick has written for this web site are:  REFLECTIONS


·         Here Comes Summer (July 2012)

·         Spring (May 2012)

·         Let it Snow, Let it Snow, Let it Snow (April 2012)

·         Wayward and Windy (April 2012)

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      Some of the sermon titles posted recently on Wyrick's Writings


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BELOW ARE MORE QUOTES FROM NEIL'S RECENTLY POSTED SERMONS on Wyrick's Writings

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A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ON SUNDAY APRIL 15. ENTITILED

 

       Two stores faced each other across a very busy street.  Their owners were in constant competition with each other.  One day, the owner of one store put out a sign that read – If you want it, we have it!

Almost immediately the other owner put out a sign –If we don’t have it, you don’t need it!

 

      

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