Wednesday, August 15, 2012

WHEN YHOU FEEL LONELY WHAT DO YOU DO?

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                Do you remember the first time you were homesick?  Was it during your first foray away from home at a summer camp or as late as college when you were now really on your own?  Whatever was the reason, you were surrounded by people but not with them.

       Family was many miles away. 

       Or maybe it was a new job that was overwhelming you.  Among all these strangers would be future friends.  Or maybe, none of this was true, you had already made a new friend...but still you were just lonely and you couldn't put your finger on it.  You didn't like that old job but at least each day these were people you had worked with for years.

       Mother Teresa said once, “The biggest disease today is not leprosy or cancer. It’s the feeling of being uncared for, unwanted – of being deserted and alone.”

       Whatever is your reason for loneliness...where are you seeking a cure for this malady?

       Substitutes?     

       Money? Can you hold a wallet full of money in your hand and receive the same kind of comfort as holding the hand of a loved one.

       Can you enjoy eating breakfast with fame when in front of you is only an empty day full of people of whom you wonder if they are friends at all?

       Can you be surrounded by a crowd and feel as if you were in the middle of a desert with the feeling that the nearest person who cares about you is a thousand miles away?

       Have you ever gone to a church on a Sunday morning and left feeling so very lonely because not one single person spoke to you?  (What stranger did you speak with last Sunday?)

       You do not have to be alone to feel lonely.

       What can you do to combat loneliness?  Well...certainly not nothing (poor grammar...good truth).  The temptation is there...lonely people pull within themselves and push other people away.  Bad idea.

       Rather...don't just take a lemon life and try to make some lemonade...work at giving some of the lemonade away...

       ...lonely people are often shy and this may be you...when facing another person and you can't think of anything to say...fine...then say little but let that little be a question to the other person about what they are doing...once you get them to talking and you to actively listening...they will love you...and both of you will be less lonely.

       In the process they may end up sharing a pain or problem...now you can show empathy...which will be great for them and great for you also...altruism is great for a lonely spirit.

       When Corrie ten Boom was a young woman in the Netherlands, she fell madly in love  with a young man  who did not fall in love with her.

       Fact, is, he brought their relationship to an end and soon thereafter married one of her best friends.

       She was devastated.

       Her Father was a wise man and so he sat down with her and gave her advice that was to benefit her in ways she could never imagine.  "Corrie, there are two things you can do with your lost love.  You can crawl inside your shell and hold a host of bitterness inside where it will eat you up...or you can rechannel  it to something or someone else and start focusing on other people's needs."

       And this is what she did and the kind of person she became?...She became the selfless person living under Nazi captivity and imprisonment as told in her book THE HIDING PLACE.

       We are all contractors...constantly building walls or bridges...and we know which of the two will get us nowhere.

       It is a valley, this valley of loneliness, and there is not a lot of sun there in some of its darkest recesses...and how do we find some light to make it so much a place of dispair?      

       Oh, there are things to do that will definitely help... change your job; join a club; be positive; get married; get remarried; travel the world; move house; use your hi-fi; turn your TV on and your radio; read good books; take up a hobby; expand your horizons; renew your goals; volunteer for some good cause.

       But...and there is more of permanence in the following suggestions...accept what cannot... will not be changed.  You will drive yourself to distraction if you continue to try to change the unchangeable.

       I just said it but for an even better source of truth try the Apostle Paul,     "I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content". (Philippians 4:11)

       I didn't say jump with joy in the face o failure...but I do say, don't stamp your feet in anger or fill yourself with bitterness.  You will create an avalanche of loneliness.

       What can you actually do to have more friends to combat loneliness?

       Do you walk around wearing a perpetual frown....not exchanging it for a smile...even if you don't feel like smiling...smile anyway...people will smile back and then...what do you know...you will feel more like smiling.

       Do you constantly wear a chip on your shoulder?  It is a poor fashion statement.  And people won't like the fashion and they will not treat you nice which will just make the chip larger which will make people treat you even less nice...which will make you make the chip larger...which..............

       "It's me and I can't do anything about it."  You say and have said this countless times to yourself...and I say "But you can do something about it..."...

       In short...even when you do not actually feel nice...act like you do...

       and then watch people treat you nicer because nice feeds off of nice...nice begets nice like smiles beget smiles like nice begets nice like smiles beget smiles...like.....

       It's a domino game...it just depends on which way you aim the dominos.

       The book of Proverbs puts it better than I just did.  " A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly".  (Proverbs 18:24)

       I close with what you would expect me to say...because it is true...the worst loneliness in the world is to be without God...and the greatest friend you will ever have is your Savior King.

       Spiritual loneliness is the worst.

       To aim at birth and life and death without a relationship with your creator is the ultimate act of foolishness.  It is to court the worst kind of loneliness that will affect all other kinds of loneliness.

       What's so great about a relationship with Jesus...well his attitude toward you is what the attitude of a true friend should be.

       He loves you no matter what you do.

       He loves you when you are running away him...He loves you when you are quietly praying on your knees.      

       He loves you not because you always deserve it but because He was that one who on the cross cried, "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do."

       It is not that He does not know our spiritual infirmities...it is that He accepts them and works with us as we seek to overcome them.

       And here comes Paul again with some more of his excellent advice, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be

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                                        QUOTES BELOW ARE FROM WYRICK'S WRITINGS...CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING TO TAKE YOU THERE... http://wyrickswritings.blogspot.com

(These are selected sermons from over 50 years of ministry and as a worldwide evangelist have been preached all over the world)

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      A new quote  (posted Aug 12) below from Rev. Wyrick's 9th book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN...available on amazon.com, barnes and noble and many other book sites) (read the rave reviews below)

 How much differently would government function if all elected officials were as good historians as politicians and statesmen?  The school-of-yesterday is such a worthy teacher.  It is a shame that so many who have shaped our nation’s directions have not better studied and remembered the good and bad directions of the past.

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            CLICK ON  www.go60.us   IT WILL TAKE YOU A NEW WEBSITE FOR SENIORS....click on "Voice" on the home page and then on the list of authors click on Neil Wyrick

Recent articles Rev. Wyrick has written for this web site are:  REFLECTIONS


·         Here Comes Summer (July 2012)

·         Spring (May 2012)

·         Let it Snow, Let it Snow, Let it Snow (April 2012)

·         Wayward and Windy (April 2012)



Just remember that “the pain of discipline will cost you pennies, whereas the pain of regret will cost you millions.”

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How can we keep our faith from being a weak and fruitless thing?  How can we not be foolish little men and women groveling in the dark shadows of overeager egos. 


          Well, first we must do more than just pray.  We must believe in our own prayers.

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Anxiety out of proportion makes us become like a centipede trying to put his best foot forward.

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        It's an old joke, I went to the doctor and I said, “Doc, when I do this, it hurts.” And the doctor said, “Then don't do that.”

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        How many things have you been anxious about that were things which you knew before you got into them were probably going to create some problems for you?  And if you asked your doctor, or your minister, or common sense and your God, all of them would have said, “Don’t do that.”

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        To buy into the community of accountability we have to realize that like bikers we are divided into two categories.  Those who have fallen and those who will fall for anything. None of us are perfect.

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          Think on it this way, some philosopher of old wrote it and it endures because there is so much truth in it… every right implies a responsibility; every opportunity, an obligation; every possession, a duty

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      Some of the sermon titles posted recently


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Before you decide to purchase or not purchase his book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN.... view his Award Winning One Man Dramatization of Lincoln (since he wrote the script for this drama it will give you an insight into what you will find in the book itself)

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TO VIEW THE LINCOLN One Man DRAMA and 3 other dramas; Ben Franklin, Martin Luther & Charles Wesley

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http://www.speakerneil.com/

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BELOW ARE MORE QUOTES FROM NEIL'S RECENTLY POSTED SERMONS

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A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ON SUNDAY APRIL 15. ENTITILED



       Two stores faced each other across a very busy street.  Their owners were in constant competition with each other.  One day, the owner of one store put out a sign that read – If you want it, we have it!

Almost immediately the other owner put out a sign –If we don’t have it, you don’t need it!



A QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS POSTED ON MY OTHER BLOG WYRICK'S WRITINGS ON THURSDAY APRIL 13TH. ENTITILED

WHO ARE YOU?

NO…WHOSE ARE YOU?

       Who are you?  Whose are you?

You influence and are influenced according to the answer you give.     

Are you are the flavor of the month because you are determined to be like everyone else no matter what?  If so, consider being more independent in our thinking and actions...because God wants you to grow up.

It may be easier being someone's shadow but wouldn't you really rather be a sun. 



       QUOTE FROM THOUGHTS  POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITINGS THURSDAY  APRIL 5 FROM THOUGHT ENTITLED "Who Are You?  Whose Are You?"

       This is an old quote, and a romantic one as well but, nevertheless, can anyone say of you, “I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

            QUOTE FROM THOUGHT PIECE POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITINGS TUESDAY APRIL 3 FROM THOUGHT ENTITLED

" WHEN A NATION STRAYS TOO FAR FROM BEING MORAL IT IS WELL ON IT'S WAY TO BECOMING A MESS

        James 4:17

To him therefore who knows to do good, and doesn’t do it, to him it is sin.

        Someone once said: “A belief is what you hold, a conviction is what holds you!”

        So what holds you, constructs you, leads you with a push when needed?

       Quotes POSTED ON WYRICK'S WRITING THURSDAY MARCH 29th THOUGHTS ENTITLED WHO ARE YOU?

NO…WHOSE ARE YOU?

        In a Peanuts cartoon strip Peppermint Patty is shown talking to Charlie Brown.

“Guess what, Chuck? It’s the first day of school and I got sent to the principal’s office.

And it’s your fault!”

Charlie Brown responds, “My fault? How could it be my fault? Why do you say everything is my fault?”

To which she declares, “You’re my friend, aren’t you, Chuck? You should have been a better influence on me.”

In the comics, it’s funny… but in real life it’s much more complicated.

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          Yes, God loves you the way you are but he loves you too much to let you stay that way.

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      Click on the URL below to WATCH NEIL IN HIS WORLD FAMOUS ONE MAN DRAMATIZATIONS OF ABRAHAM LINCOLN, BEN FRANKLIN, CHARLES WESLEY AND MARTIN LUTHER


       To Order and Read Neil's 9th book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN

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       QUOTES ABOUT THIS WONDERFUL INSPIRING INFORMATIVE book

       STILL RECEIVING RAVE REVIEWS 8 YEARS AFTER IT'S PUBLICATION.

       "Positive, powerful utterances...skillfully enhancing our understanding and appreciation of Lincoln while revealing the Divine source of his strength."

       Lt. Colonel C.A. Olsen (Ret.) Asbury College (Professor Ret.)

       "The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln is an extremely well written book that investigates what might be termed the spiritual side of President Lincoln. It's both scholarly and very readable. I came away impressed at Mr. Wyrick's portrayal of the President and with an altered and enlarged vision of the man:'

       William Hoffman, Award winning fiction writer; author of Blood and Guile, and Wild Thorn

       "Wyrick has authored a wonderful examination of the spirituality of one of American history's most devoutly religious leaders...a pleasant and readable book that has a rich depth of information."

              Maynard Pittendreigh Presbyterian minister

        "When it comes to invoking religion in support of any of their decisions, politicians need to sit at the feet of Abraham Lincoln. Reinhold Niebuhr once called him 'America's greatest theologian.' Why so great? Because he invariably distinguished between human works and the works of the Almighty. As Wyrick says, 'He wore the mantle of humility easily: because he was more impressed with what God was doing in the world than with what he, president of the United States in the midst of an awful crisis, was doing. That is why in his last major speech he distinguished between both human causes in the Civil War and the Almighty's 'own purposes.' Lincoln would have agreed that it is better to leave God-talk out of politics than to decorate human proposals with divinity. This is a book for our American time. Through his careful study of Lincoln's career, Wyrick compels us to remember that piety belongs in politics only when piety transcends politics."

       Dr. Donald W. Shriver

       Emeritus professor at Union Theological Seminary in New York. Author of An Ethic for Enemies: Forgiveness in Politics

        "V. Neil Wyrick's fine work allows the reader to appreciate Abraham Lincoln's Christian commitment and his prophetic role in American history. Should have a wide readership."

       James H. Smylie Professor of Church History (Ret.) Union Theological Seminary, Richmond, Virginia

       "Neil Wyrick's The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln should be read by anyone attempting to understand the man who was probably the most complex person to ever hold the office of president of the United States. Dr. Wyrick is intent on demonstrating that the spirituality so often expressed in Lincoln's writings and speeches was not merely lip service to a Deity, but rather expressions of a profound faith in a real God. It was this faith that provided the wisdom, compassion, insight and sometimes steel that Lincoln would need in full measure as he led the United States through the Civil War. Dr. Wyrick's clear and unpretentious style of presentation is very much in keeping with the character ofhis subject, and in so doing, Wyrick makes his point very well that Lincoln, his beliefs, and the faith that formed them, are as relevant to a troubled America in 2004 as they were in 1863."

       Daniel Allen Butler, author of "Unsinkable"; The Full Story of the RMS Titanic, The Lusitania and The Age o f Cunard

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