Friday, February 17, 2012

12 TIPS TO SUCCESSFUL NEGOTIATIONS WITHOUT DISSENTION


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      Years ago, a large statue of Christ was erected high in the Andes on the border between Argentina and Chile. Called "Christ of the Andes," the statue symbolizes a pledge between the two countries that as long as the statue stands, there will be peace between Chile and Argentina.

        Shortly after the statue was erected, the Chileans began to protest that they had been slighted -- the statue had its back turned to Chile.

        Just when tempers were at their highest in Chile, a Chilean newspaperman saved the day.

         In an editorial that not only satisfied the people but made them laugh, he simply said, "The people of Argentina need more watching over than the Chileans.

      We all negotiate all the time.  There are disagreements and if something positive isn't done poor communication of differing opinions can create long lasting problems.

      Everything below is not a one size fits all because it may be a full blown discussion at an officers meeting or a simple opinion or which two folk can decide to handle in a Christian manner or no Christian manner at all.

             1. Each side should write down pros and cons. Then exchange notes before starting I verbal exchange.

             2. Be clear. We're all capable of asking ;something like, "Is it colder in winter, or in Montana?"

             3. Never get into a memory contest. "You said I said." What Is being said now, not  what was said is what is important.

             4. Emotion has its place as long as it doesn't  fuel a shouting match.

             5. Use balm phrases like, "Correct me if I'm wrong." This says you are a reasonable individual.

             6. Make sure that often during any discussion you feed the other person's need or security, control of the situation and ego.

             7. Don't get into a blame contest. Unless

it is vital to the discussion, ignore it.

             8. Agree with any point the other side makes that you know is right. Conciliation does not mean concession.

             9. Don't beat yesterday's procrastinations or mistakes to death.

             10. Don't take, or make, personal comments. Logic dies when hurt feelings arise.

             11. Have more than one option in mind. If you can't hit a home run, bunt a Single.

             12. Know that no matter how good your solution is, it will probably be rejected at first.



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